Charming? Compliment her on her outfit (not the way her body looks in it though!). Open the door for her, or pull out a chair. Say you like the way her hair falls. It sounds corny, but women love this if it sounds like you mean it. Intelligence? Bring up a recent disaster and comment on how devastating it is. She’ll love how you can empathize. Funny? Make fun of yourself if you can’t find a good joke! Nothing serious, of course, or you’ll just sound pathetic. The easiest way to perfect your personality is to just get out there and have experiences with other people. The more you chat and interact with different people, the more confidence you’re going to build.

Remember—you don’t get any practice or experience by staying home or limiting yourself to a guys’ night out.