This is, of course, if you don’t have a job and a place to stay lined up. If you’re one of the lucky few who have a pre-approved destination in mind, you may be able to get by being a little more strapped for cash. It’s always a good idea to have some money saved up before you leave home.
Find ways to scavenge for food. Whether it’s seeing what a few days off the dollar menu feels like or dumpster diving, practice. It’s more than a good idea to see what you’re in for, food and drink wise. Aside from those two ideas, we’ll talk about what else you can do in the next section. Practice sleeping in uncomfortable places. When you’re on the run, you’ll be sleeping on benches, behind bushes, curled in corners – you name it. You won’t be sleeping in your 1000-thread count Egyptian cotton sheets anymore that your body is used to. Sleeping in hard, uncomfortable places is only difficult if you’re not used to. Get used to it beforehand and it’s one less thing you have to worry about.
Youth shelters are a good place to start. They’re not a good place to stay forever, but they can give you that time to get your situation figured out. A friend or extended family member can be good, too, but do know that puts them in a tough place when it comes to your parents. They are legally bound to say they know where you are if your parents have filed a report on your disappearance. However, you may be able to get away with a few days, no questions asked (and food on the table).
Remember that you’re taking this wherever you go, like a backpacker. It’ll be annoying as much as it’ll be useful. Also, remember that what you carry around determines your look. Do you look like a backpacker, tourist, or shifty runaway?
Do not be afraid to hide this note fairly well; the authorities will find it during their search no matter how well it is hidden and discovery by your guardian would likely lead to immediate notification of authorities.
Sleeping inside sometimes lets us forget just how cold it gets at nights. Bring long underwear and warm clothing with you, even if you’re not sure you’ll need it. It’s better to be safe than sorry, and warmth is a necessity.
If you decide to travel across country borders, try to do so within the first 12 hours of departure. Your passport photo will be easily recognizable by border control after your parent has had you declared an official missing person. You are less likely to be recognized if you are not nearby your home. Although this may sound slightly crazy, it’s actually easier to run away to a foreign country, especially in Europe, because you will likely be mistaken for just another American tourist with a lot of luggage. Don’t talk about your story to other passengers. They may not take pity on you (and instead take pity on your parents) and alert the police to your situation. If anyone asks, either come up with a story or tell them you’d just like to keep to yourself.
Don’t update your social media either. Saying, “I’m so tired of this crap. I’m going to run away!” is not a brilliant idea. What’s more, never go on your old Facebook, Myspace, Twitter, Youtube, Gmail or any other web based account again once you leave. They can easily track you using these sites.
It’s also a good idea to gain weight, if possible (within reason, of course). Losing weight is to be expected – those looking for you will assume you’re becoming thinner as the days go by because you’re not eating.
And even then, exercise caution. They may tell someone who will tell someone who will tell the authorities. The gossip chain is usually pretty hard to pin down, and it’s always flowing from ear to ear somewhere.
If you are in a place surrounded by people, know that you have a higher chance of police or concerned pedestrians questioning you about your predicament. Always be prepared with a back-story. Make sure that wherever you are that’s empty at night is still empty in the morning. That church parking lot on Saturday evening may seem safe and secure, but come Sunday morning you’ll be regretting that assumption.
Dumpsters behind grocery stores and restaurants often throw out the food they can’t sell. It’s not necessarily old, they just can’t sell it. Go at night after closing and you may be rewarded. Poke around at buffets. When a party gets up, you go in for the pounce. Uneaten food for the win. Ask. If you go to a restaurant, cafe, or hospital, they may take pity on you and give you some of the food they know they probably won’t or can’t sell. Just remember to put on your kindest smile when you do so.
If you’re not sixteen or you admitting your identity is a problem, see if you can find day-to-day, cash-in-hand work. This will likely be manual labor but, at least, it’s something. Answering flyers posted to community boards and checking sites like Craigslist are your best bets.
Whatever you do, do not steal any items from wherever you are staying. This makes you a wanted criminal, and you are now being hunted much more so than if you had just run away.
Position yourself near a gas station near the entrance to a freeway or highway. You will then be able to approach the drivers that you think may give you a ride (young and old people are best; avoid those in suits and those that look crazy). If that’s not an option, get near the on-ramp or a low-speed road – the drivers need time to see you and slow down. When someone does stop, act approachable, happy, and comfortable with your situation. And then survey them: do you want to ride with them? Trust your gut; if it says no, politely decline. If it says yes, get in, put your bag in the back, and keep your hands on your knees (to show that you’re not a threat).
Go to your local train station and get a copy of the schedule. Find the train you want to take to your preferred destination. When it arrives, get on a middle car when an agent steps away from the door. Sit down as if you came from a prior stop, and keep an eye out for the agent. When you see him or her coming for your ticket, hop into the bathroom. If he or she actually knocks on the bathroom, be on the toilet and none too happy about being intruded upon. Your only other option is wandering about the entire time, never really sitting down.
Act confident wherever you go. Being nervous invites those looking for prey to come up to you and take advantage of you. Carry a knife with you for self-defense (it’s not pretty advice, but it’s real). Use a secret compartment in your backpack, if possible. If they raid your stuff, they may skip over the lining of your bag – you can keep a small laptop or something flat in there to mirror the structure of the bag. There’s such a thing as “adventure underwear,” and it has pockets. Thieves will generally not check your underwear, so keeping a wad of cash in there is a pretty safe bet.
If you have run away several times, you may become a child of the state and be forced into the foster system, or otherwise away from your home when found. You are then deemed a “Child in Need of Supervision” and the courts will determine what to do with you. Because of situations like this, it’s best to avoid the authorities at all costs. If you are in a foreign country that speaks a different language and you get confronted by the police, pretend not to speak English. It really helps to be bilingual in this situation, even if it is a language different than the native one of the country you’re in to try to fool the police into thinking you are from a country other than your actual homeland.
In the US, that number is 1-800-RUNAWAY. In the UK, Childline offers similar services at 0800 1111. Covenant House, based in Los Angeles but operating in many countries in North America and Central America, offers shelter to youth, and their main number is (323) 461-3131. [6] X Research source
