Dress to kill. Forget the sweatpants or jeans and a t-shirt: you want to show her that tonight is going to be different. Put on a pair of nice slacks and a dress shirt, or a dress. Be sure they match (try a dark purple top with black pants or a navy blue top and brown pants). Get someone to help you make sure your hair looks nice too. If it’s a really special date night, you might even want to go to a salon to have it styled. Your girlfriend will think that you stepped right out of a magazine. [2] X Research source Smell amazing. Girls are very sensitive to smells. A really good smell might not guarantee you success but a bad smell will almost definitely count against you. Use a light body spray or scented deodorant to get yourself smelling good.
If you’re usually very scripted in how you talk and interact with her, break the script. Instead of sounding all cool and collected, let your softer, hidden side shine through. Another example is if you’re usually very shy around her. Tonight, take charge in your interactions. She’ll be very turned on.
Touch the back of her neck, caress her shoulders, play with her hair, stroke her collar bone; all of these actions can fundamentally shift how she’s thinking in the moment.
Timing is also important if it’s her first time having sex or her first time having sex with you. If she’s not ready for that step in a relationship, you shouldn’t push her. Discuss the subject with her, tell her what you want, and see how she feels. Just make sure that she understands that you’ll still have feelings for her, even if she isn’t ready yet.
For example, let’s say that she’s having a hard time getting to work or school ever since her car broke down. Call up a buddy of yours who works on cars and find a way to trade for the use of their skills. Getting your girl back on the road will take a huge amount of stress off of her. Of course, just because you do something nice does not mean she’s obligated to have sex with you and you shouldn’t use it as a way to pressure her into a more physical situation. Instead, this should be used to show her that you are a good partner, devoted to and honestly invested in her happiness.
One idea is to turn the tables and make something for her for once. You’ve probably received a handmade scarf or something like that. Now it’s her turn. A good go-to option is to make her something using origami. This looks really impressive but isn’t that hard as long as you’re patient. See our pages on origami for ideas and instructions.
For example, you want to avoid compliments like “you look really nice today” because it implies that she does not normally look nice. Another one to avoid is “that dress makes you look so thin” because it implies that she normally looks fat. While it’s better to tailor compliments to the woman in question, a good go-to compliment would be something like “I feel like I could talk to you forever” or “I feel like I can just be myself around you”.
You can set a romantic mood by putting together a romantic environment. Clean up, light some incense, and set out some flowers and candles. It doesn’t take much work, but it can really impress your partner.
Use a bottle of lavender or regular baby oil (or an oil based lotion) to give the massage. This will stop you from irritating her skin and will also help your hands glide across her skin in a more soothing and sexy manner. Pro Tip: prepare the oil by heating it up in a bowl of warm water just a few minutes before giving her the rub down.
Experiment with kissing her stomach and the sides of her rib cage. This is a very sensitive area. You can play a game where you kiss every one of her freckles, counting them and going in ever more risque directions as you go. Another good spot is just at the corners of her mouth, which will be very sensitive and drive her crazy. She’ll want to kiss your mouth but don’t let her, instead kissing everywhere else until you make her beg you to kiss her on the lips.
Say something like, “You’re so hot right now. I just want to tease you until you’re begging for me. . . "
Stimulating the back of her neck, her chest, the inside of her thighs, ears and butt all can help get her in the mood. Pick a body part and them pick an action: kissing, licking, sucking, massaging, caressing–even using hot/cold stimulus like an ice cube. There are endless combinations. Of course, if the stage has really been set, you can also stimulate more sensitive areas. If she’s ready for it and you’ve established consent, you can rub against her clitoral area with your finger.
For example, try blindfolding her and then play a game of slow-strip, kissing her progressively lower and lower down her body and then back up. The mix of sensations will feel amazing and she’ll be ready for just about anything.
Your hands should not automatically go down her pants and under her shirt. Give yourself at least 20 minutes of other activities before even trying to take off her clothes. Even the act itself will go better a lot of the time if you start off slow.
