Perhaps the person reaches out to you over several social media platforms and “friends” you, then begins to text you non-stop. You may begin to feel uncomfortable.
If someone insists on knowing what you do each day, this can be a red flag. There’s a difference between being interested in your life and becoming obsessed with your whereabouts. If you begin to date someone who shows these traits, reconsider seeing him or her again.
You may notice that the person slips up and says something you never told them. This can be a warning sign.
Some people are simply awkward, not stalkers. If the person doesn’t seem to obsess over you, isn’t threatening, and doesn’t seem attached to you in particular, then they probably just aren’t good at socializing.
Some socially awkward people, and people with developmental disabilities, have trouble reading body language. But, if you clearly ask them not to do something, they are capable of respecting that.
The person may act innocent enough, but pay attention to your own feelings. Do you feel uneasy or threatened, even just a little? Does the visit feel a bit aggressive or invasive to you? You might also notice that you bump into the person often when you are out. This may be because the person has memorized your schedule and knows where to find you throughout the day.
Vandalizing your property. Sending things to you in the mail, such as pictures, letters, or other items. Driving by your house frequently. Making false police reports about you.
Never confront your stalker alone. Always have someone - a friend, a family member, or an acquaintance - present with you. If necessary, alert the police.
The delusions may feed the stalking behavior, and the person will believe the delusions as true.
This intensity may come out through a barrage of texts, frequent visits, or elaborate ways of getting your attention.
The person may become so fixated in thoughts and behaviors that the stalking behavior becomes central to their life. For example, a stalker may become obsessed with seeing you every day, or knowing what you will do next.
If someone asks you multiple times about the person you were with in a photo or about a specific location of a post, this can be a red flag.
Substance abuse and personality disorders are common in people who stalk.
If you have an ex you think may be dangerous, alert workplace security and provide a photo of the person. You may want to alert your coworkers to any potential danger by saying, “A dangerous person is trying to reach me. Please do not let the door open for this person. ” Some people stalk for revenge and may be an ex-coworker, vindictive relative, or scorned friend.
If you suspect you are being stalked by a stranger, report this concern to the police.
If you feel like you are in immediate danger, then call emergency services right away.
