Fight the temptation to try to win this person back by continuing to talk and spend time together. If your ex doesn’t love you anymore, then nothing you do or say will make him or her love you again. The best thing you can do for yourself is to keep your ex out of sight and out of mind. If you go to the same school, live in the same town, or share the same core group of friends as your ex, it may be difficult to avoid running into him or her on occasion. If you do, be polite and say hello, but try to keep your conversations brief and light-hearted.
If you feel like you need to cry, then cry. If you need to scream, then scream. Do whatever it takes to let your emotions out, even if you feel like you’re being overly dramatic or emotional. Keeping your feelings locked up will only cause them to come back and haunt you in the future.
Obviously you broke up for a reason, meaning that there was something missing in the relationship. Even if you can’t think of one negative quality in this person, the simple fact that you are broken up should be enough. No matter how great this person may be, the fact that they don’t want to be with you anymore means that you are not right for each other.
Having the freedom to vent to your friends is great, but know your limits. Talking about a breakup only helps up to a certain point; after awhile, it will only fuel your obsession and cause you to overanalyze the situation (not to mention the fact that your friends will probably start to get annoyed).
Now that you are single, it’s time to focus on yourself and think about the aspects of your life that you would like to improve. Are you happy with your career or your performance in school? Are you happy with your body? What about your living situation? The goal is to improve your lifestyle so that it is better now than it was when you were in a relationship. Though it may seem difficult, it is possible. You will have to do some soul searching to figure out where to focus your efforts, though. You don’t have to make large, life-altering changes. Even small efforts like redecorating your room can help boost your mood in the long run.
Spend time doing the things that you enjoy doing that perhaps your ex didn’t enjoy doing. Make plans to go out with friends and remember to approach every situation with a positive attitude; be open to meeting new people, visiting new places, and creating new memories.
No matter how horrible you may feel right now, seek comfort in the fact that it will only continue to get easier from this point on. Eventually you’ll start to feel normal again, and if you just make the effort, be happier than you ever could have imagined.
