Try reading LGBT+ and feminist literature, particularly stories about people who grew up being a little different. These can help you understand how to be supportive, and can assuage any worries.
Either way, your child needs love and support for being who they are.
When you are shopping for clothes, let him wander between blue and pink sections if he wants too. Let him dress up in old clothes or costumes. (Make it clear that if he is borrowing clothes from a sister, he needs to ask permission first!)
Ask why he likes to dress in “girl clothes. " (This can help you determine whether he is transgender or just cross-dressing, and you will understand him better. ) Try having an honest conversation about gender norms in society and how these are often demonstrated through clothing choices. Even though many people adhere to gendered clothing choices, this does not mean that one has to adhere to this and it is okay to dress the way he wants! Fashion is a great vehicle for self-expression, so as long as it is a safe environment, clothing choices can be explored and enjoyed.
“Boys can get teased for dressing like girls. It isn’t fair or right, but it does happen. Whether you want to have painted nails in school or not is your decision, and I support you either way. "
Showing respect for girly things will help him learn to show respect for girls.
If your child is upset, reassure him that he’s okay. They’re mean. If someone is a bully, that is their fault (and not his). Imagine if your child saw someone being bullied. You would want him to stand up for them. Be a role model to your child and stand up for him.
