One of the best ways to do so is to get alone where others will not be able to hear you and simply speak your truth. Speak out loud and say what you think about your breakup, what it feels like, and what you are worried about. Speak about any and every aspect of your relationship that you want to. Cry, laugh, get angry, etc. There is no right or wrong way to do this, and you may find that you will need to do this more than once. There are no rules for grieving; just take the time to do so. You will find that your heart will heal faster, and you will be more inclined to move on faster than if you keep all of those feelings inside. Cannot stress how important this is. No one wants to take the time to feel the hurt or deal with negative emotions, but the sooner you do and the more you give yourself permission to go through the process, the better off you will be. Anytime something comes to an end there will be a level of loss involved. It is vital to your wellbeing and closure to make it a priority to process what happened. To express it in a healthy way and not suppress it.
Try to get in a routine, as it makes us feel safe, grounded, organized, and helps to feel like there is some level of order in our life after a breakup because we know what to expect each day.
It is essential for you to reclaim every part of who you are and be intentional about who you want to become. This process is very empowering! Remember that you are the one who is defining who you are and who you want to be.
If you’re not really that confident about approaching people at social gatherings, create scenarios to meet people. Go ahead and get yourself a part time job in a bar, a general store or volunteer at your local animal welfare center or charity. You’ll be forced to speak to unfamiliar customers as part of the job description; a fantastic way to build up rapport with colleagues or regular customers. This raises your confidence, too. Eventually you will meet new and exciting people (probably someone who will make your heart skip a beat, and make you forget your old flame). But don’t be hard on yourself if it doesn’t happen too quickly; it usually takes a while for people to get to know each other better, which is normal.
