Realize that part of what you’re going through is about reshaping yourself; you will need to change what isn’t working for you, which can ultimately lead to a stronger and more resilient self. Did you choose this path? Sometimes the difficult situation comes about as a result of your “calling”, be it faith, career, parenthood, research, or whatever. In such a case, remember why you chose this path and take strength from remembering why it matters to you.
Practicing meditation can help you to remain calm in the face of many pressures in your life. Take time out from the difficult situation. Whether it’s a workout, a quick duck-out for a breather or a chat with a trusted pal, find ways to distract yourself temporarily and rejuvenate.
Hard times can be both creative and inspiring. This may seem an odd way to view what you’re going through but it is certainly a more capable one, that allows you to actively seek solutions.
If you’re having suicidal thoughts and need immediate help coping, please call or text 988, the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. (See also How to cope with suicidal thoughts).
Again, return to the thought of looking for the silver lining and try to embrace change. Such a positive approach to change may lead to you coping better and turning what seems difficult around to feeling manageable. You don’t have to love what you’re going through, just make it bearable until it becomes your “new normal”.
