“I love it when you kiss my neck. " “I love it when you touch my thighs. " “I love it when you lick my ears. " “I love it when you stroke my back. " Of course, you can always switch up the exact words you use for variation. For example, these same sentences can easily expressed as “It’s so nice when you [verb] my [body part]” as well.
“I love getting on top of you. " “I love seeing you take your shirt off. " “I love kissing your neck. " “I love taking off my clothes for you. "
”Do you like it when I touch you there?” “Do you like it when I kiss you like this?” “Does it feel good when I stroke you here/like this?”
Don’t just say that something feels good—tell your lover which part of your body feels good. If you’re so turned on that you feel it in your toes, tell them.
Just proceed with caution. If it’s really illicit, then you may want to get to make sure you’re really comfortable with your lover before you tell them your deepest darkest fantasy.
Don’t be afraid to get a little aggressive. Be the boss and tell your lover exactly what you want them to do to you. You can both take turns giving orders. After you’ve been the boss for a while, try being a bit more submissive and do whatever your lover wants.
“I want you so bad. " “I’ve wanted you all day. " “You smell so good. " “I’ve been looking forward to this. " “You look so sexy right now. " “You always know how to turn me on right away. "
Also, it’s okay if your partner enjoys your dirty talk but isn’t comfortable reciprocating. Of course, if you only enjoy dirty talk when it’s going both ways, it might be better to forgo it completely. But it’s perfectly acceptable to bring dirty talk into the bedroom even if only one of you is actually doing the talking.
If your lover says something too crude or offensive for you in bed, don’t stop and get angry. Simply say something like, “Please don’t say that again. " If your lover doesn’t get the message, then you can stop the action. If you’re too embarrassed to admit that a certain word makes you uncomfortable during sex, mention it afterwards. Make sure your lover gets the picture.
You may find that you and your lover take on certain roles when you’re talking dirty in bed. This does not mean that these roles reflect on your real roles in the relationship.
If you’re both comfortable with it, try watching porn together with your lover. It can give you great dirty talk ideas and turn you on at the same time. You can both comment on what words and phrases the actors use that you like.
