Stand straight with good posture. Don’t act like you’re nervous or uncomfortable. Smile. Make sure your clothes look nice. Act relaxed – as if you have plenty of time.
You could start off texting her something simple like “Hey! Long time, no talk. " She might respond she doesn’t know who you are, and then you can take the conversation from there. If she does know who you are, ask her how she’s doing. Consider texting her about something you think she finds interesting. For example, if she’s really into politics, say you were watching the latest election results and thought of her. [1] X Research source
Tag her in a photo and write,“Good times!” If you message her on social media, send her something short like, “Long time, no talk. What’s going on?”
If you call her, you may want to start off by honestly explaining yourself. Introduce yourself and then say, “I remember that good time we had last fall, and I was wondering what you were up to. " If you call her and she doesn’t answer, don’t call back. Leave a message or a missed call. If she wants to contact you, she will. [3] X Research source
Say something like “Hey, Ann! I’m John – we know each other through Andy. ” Don’t be offended if she doesn’t know your name or forgets it later.
Start with a light-hearted joke about something you might think is funny. For example, if you remember she really likes Oreo cookies, you can joke about those. Joke about fashion. For instance, say “I was just in the mall and saw someone that looks exactly like you wearing crocs. ” Use self-deprecating humor. For example, say, “Hey, do you remember me? The guy who wears the absurd cowboy boots. ”[4] X Research source
Generally, you can say something like “It’s been a while since we spoke. How are you doing?” If you knew her from work, and one of you has moved on, ask her “So, what’s going on with work these days?” In the case you knew each other through a mutual friend, you could simply ask about whether she’s spoken to that person recently. [5] X Research source
If you’re throwing a party with roommates or friends, this is probably a good time to reestablish contact with a girl you might be interested in. If you’re going to an event or party somewhere with a group of friends, reach out and invite her to join your group. [6] X Research source
For coffee with friends. For a drink at a place you both already hang out. At some sort of event you both are interested in. For example, ask if she’d like to meet you after a concert, or ask if she’ll be going to a certain campus organization meeting. [7] X Research source
