Text her a few hours before you want to talk: Hey, will you be free to chat tonight? or Can I call you at 7? Be flexible and work out a mutually convenient time. If she’s busy:Don’t: get irritated or sullen. Do: say How about tomorrow night? or Good luck on your midterm! Talk this weekend?
Hey! How’s my girl doing? Hi beautiful! How was your day? I’ve been looking forward to hearing your voice all day! What have you been up to?
If you have been dating for a while, you can say: Just calling to tell you I love you! If you are in a new relationship, leave a more casual voicemail: I just wanted to see how you’re doing! I miss you! Let her know the best time to call you back, so you don’t wind up in a game of telephone tag: I’ll be home from soccer practice at 7. Maybe talk to you then?
Share a story from your day. Ask her about her favorite sports team. Talk about events at your school. Discuss a TV show or movie you have both seen. If the conversation gets boring:Don’t: interrupt or abruptly end the call. Do: ask questions that lead to an interesting topic.
You tell the best stories! That’s hilarious! I’m dying to hear what happened next! You are so easy to talk to. Don’t: repeat the same generic compliments every conversation. Do: say I love how excited you get talking about __.
I take guitar lessons too! Why did you pick guitar over all the other instruments in the world? You get your license in three months? Where would you go if you had a car? School break is only two weeks away! Where are you going for the holidays?
Every time I see you my world lights up. You are the most beautiful girl in this city. I feel like you understand me better than anyone else.
What happened next? How did that make you feel? Why do like In-N-Out milkshakes best?
Identify sensitive subjects as you get to know your girlfriend better and stay clear. You want your conversations to be positive experiences. Dredging up bad memories (her parents’ divorce, an ex-boyfriend, her deceased grandmother) is not a shortcut to intimacy. Let her know she can tell you anything, but don’t stir up unhappy emotions deliberately. Coming on too strong may scare her off. Don’t sound obsessed or overly needy. Don’t make comments about her body that are too forward and that she would not appreciate. Don’t: be afraid to open up about your own emotions and life experiences. Do: pay attention to her comfort level, and adjust for future conversations.
I look forward to chatting with you soon! Call me anytime. I’ll be thinking of your sweet voice all night. Don’t be a stranger. I’ll text you tomorrow morning!
Bye, beautiful. Goodnight, gorgeous! Mwahh! Goodnight kiss!
