You won’t know what activities you enjoy together unless you communicate. Choose activities that you can both do together like studying, hiking, or grabbing a bite to eat. Make sure you make it clear that you enjoy your time with her and appreciate how much you both are getting to know one another.
Analyzing your own feelings can be difficult but there are a few scientifically proven signals that may indicate whether you’re in love. Do you exhibit any of these feelings?[2] X Research source If you believe that she is unique, it may be because your brain has elevated levels of focus and attention. If you think that she is perfect and only focus on her positive qualities, it may be because your memory has increased to accommodate your new feelings of love. If you feel like you’re a wreck over your new love, it is because research has shown that being in love involves similar brain activity to being addicted with similar mood swings. Going through adversity can also make you fall in love because your brain produces more dopamine, a chemical responsible for reward and pleasure. If you feel you are obsessing over her it may be because your brain has decreased the levels of central serotonin, which is associated with obsessive behavior. People in love have also shown signs of emotional dependency in which they want to be together all the time and hope to stay together forever. When you’re in love you may feel like you’ll do anything for her because you have a greater sense of empathy for the woman you love. Studies have shown that being in love is about an emotional union, not about sex. Studies have also shown that people in love feel that their love is uncontrollable.
You don’t want to tell her you love her when you are being distracted by friends or she has to work overtime to meet the deadline of an important client.
Engage her in a conversation by starting with a simple “How’s are you?” You will come off as creepy or awkward if you stand at her location without saying anything. If you can’t think of something to say because you’re nervous, just say hello and keep walking or talk to someone else.
For example, if you know she gets awkward and skittish whenever you watch the end of romantic comedies whenever the characters finally say “I love you”, do not make the same gesture. Instead, sincerely, but casually, let her know how much you care about her and that you want to take a step forward in your relationship.
If she is tentative but still says yes, address it and abide by the rules she has set in order to ease her mind. If she asked you to get to know her parents first because of her cultural customs, then take it as an honour and follow her lead. If she does not want to get physical in the relationship then don’t pressure her.
Don’t become unresponsive or stonewall her. Women are sensitive to interpersonal cues so blank expressions or being stonewalled can escalate an already negative situation. [9] X Research source
Use your friends, family, and other parts of your support system to deal with rejection.
Get closure. If she doesn’t have the same feelings for you, do not keep persisting. Learn to accept that it wasn’t meant to be and keep optimistic that there is something meant for you just around the corner. This may be difficult but take as much time as you need. That’s why there are so many sad love songs and movies that can help cheer you up. [12] X Research source
Your emotions may be too raw after you have been rejected to maintain a friendship. A friendship is based on mutual support and respect. Ask yourself if you can truly give that to her after you have clearly expressed that you see her as more than a friend. Can you still be friends with her if she is dating someone else?
