You order a latte and the barista gives you a cappuccino? No biggie. You’ve got BDE. You get turned down for a second date? No sweat, it just wasn’t meant to be. You’ve. Got. BDE. Just like silence, your BDE stops existing once you speak its name. BDE is not something you advertise—it’s an energy, a way of life. If you feel the need to brag about it, you probably don’t have it.
The opposite of BDE is LDE: Little Dick Energy. As you’d imagine, LDE refers to people who are petty and cowardly, lack self-esteem, and like creating drama. Your ex who broke up with you by ghosting? LDE. Though BDE is gender-neutral, the term in itself is rather problematic, as it reinforces the notion of penis supremacy and falsely equates size with value.
People with BDE aren’t concerned with whether anyone knows they have it. They’re just living their life, doing their thing, and if other people notice, cool! If not, they’re still gonna keep on keeping on.
Basic self-care always helps elevate your confidence and peace. Get outside regularly, move your body throughout the day, eat well, hydrate. Consider incorporating a positive mantra into your morning routine. Socialize often with people who make you feel good about yourself, but make sure to get plenty of alone time too. Spend time developing your interests, whether they be reading, painting, antiquing, gardening, or what have you.
BDE isn’t about toxic positivity: it’s about understanding that as a human being, you’ll encounter lots of disappointment throughout your life, and it’ll hurt, but no feeling is final. Don’t sweat it if you have moments of LDE. We all have bad days, including Pete Davidson (we don’t have the proof, but we’re positive he does). Just shake it off, and get right back on the horse again!
