It’s also possible that she will return your feelings and the two of you might have a rewarding romantic relationship.
Body language cues, such as smiling, leaning in towards you, watching your mouth, touching you lightly, etc. Messaging you often, either just to chat with you or to make plans with you. Asking you lots of questions about yourself and showing genuine interest in you. Mirroring your body movements, such as placing an elbow on the table in front of them when you do.
If the idea of not telling her makes you feel relieved, then it might be better to say nothing for now.
For example, your friend might tell you whether or not they see you and this person together, or if your friend has ever said anything about liking you or given any signs that they might, such as by flirting with you.
For example, you could say something like, “You look amazing in that dress! I can’t take my eyes off of you!” Or, you might say, “You’re so sweet! I could just eat you up!”
Avoid talking with her in front of other people. Make sure that you will be alone for the conversation and in a place you both are comfortable with. Try meeting up at a café and getting a corner table if you want to meet somewhere in public, or arrange to meet up at your house or hers for more privacy.
Remind yourself to breathe deeply during the rest of the conversation as well.
Remove any other distractions you can as well, such as by turning off the television.
Try saying something like, “Amanda, you’re one of my closest friends, and I also think I have developed some romantic feelings for you. It’s totally fine if you don’t feel the same way, but I wanted to tell you because I think I might regret it if I don’t. ” Or for an even simpler option, you could simply say, “Janice, I like you as more than a friend. I don’t know if you feel the same way, but I felt like I should tell you. ”
Try texting her something like, “Hi Melanie. I love spending time with you and I think I might have feelings for you, too. I don’t know if that’s something that you’re interested in exploring, but I just needed to tell you how I feel. ” Or, you could text her, “Christina, I’m going out on a limb here, but I think I am falling for you. I understand if you don’t feel the same way, but let me know if you do. ”
Try nodding and keeping a neutral expression while she talks to show her that you’re listening to her.
You could try practicing interacting with your friend after telling her you like her, such as by role playing with another friend. Have them pretend to be the girl you like and react in a few different ways to help you determine how you should respond.
Try saying something like, “Would you like to go see a movie with me on Saturday evening?” or “I’d like to hang out with you sometime this week. When are you free?”
Try saying something like, “I understand. I appreciate your honesty and I value your friendship. ”
For example, you could allow yourself to feel sad and cry about what happened for 1-2 days, but then make sure to get yourself out and do something fun to distract yourself.
Try saying something like, “Janet, I value our friendship, but I need to work through some things before we spend time together again. I hope you understand. ”
