If you think about what you want to say, you’ll be more prepared and might feel calmer. Be honest. Planning to lie to your parents about what your crush is like or how you interact with your crush will usually backfire. If your crush is a really great person and you’re genuinely ready to date them, you won’t have anything to hide, anyway!
Similarly, if your crush has been going on for months, it might develop into an actual relationship—especially if you’ve gotten to know them well and if you think they may like you back.
Remember it’s okay to feel bad if you find out your crush does bad things. Your feelings were still real, even if they aren’t the person you initially hoped they were.
Wait until you feel good enough to tell them. You’ll probably still have butterflies in your stomach, but it will be over soon.
The best time to tell them is when they’re in a good mood and aren’t busy, not when they are cooking dinner or feeding the baby while trying to wrap presents.
If you have to, wait a little while before you tell them. If you need to, write out what you want to say on a slip of paper. Then all you have to do is read the words.
Answer any questions your parents have honestly. If they want to know who your crush’s parents are, tell them the truth. You don’t want to emphasize your crush’s weak points, but showing some awareness about how your crush isn’t perfect can help your parents see that you’re viewing your crush realistically as the person they actually are.
If you don’t want to, or don’t have a picture, that’s okay. This step is totally optional.
If there was a specific moment when you started liking your crush, you might tell them the story. For instance, maybe you started liking them after you saw them taking a stand for something important. On the other hand, you may not know when you started liking your crush, and that’s okay too! Just tell them what qualities attract you to your crush instead.
Remember that they’re just trying to protect you and aren’t being mean! Don’t continue with your relationship in secret since that could get you in trouble.
