Even if you don’t have time to text the same day, be sure you text them within the first 2 or 3 days. Show your crush that they’re a priority for you. If you already have your crush’s number, start initiating more conversations. Check in daily to show them how much you care. Once they pick up on the pattern, they’ll also start more exchanges with you!
For instance, you could say, “Hey Jesse! I saw a shirt that would be perfect for your cowboy Halloween costume. Want to see a picture?” Let them know who you are in the first text. “Hey! This is Chris, the guy from the coffee shop earlier. It was great to meet you!" Avoid short and vague texts like “Hi!” or “What’s up?” Those could be meant for anyone! You want to show this person that you put thought into your first text.
“I love cheese so much I was thinking of making my own! Do you think it’s hard to do?” “Who do you think would win in a fight, a llama or a raccoon?”
“You looked super cute when I saw you at lunch today! That shirt really brought out your eyes. " “Congrats on that perfect test score! You earned it, and you’re totally the smartest person I know. 😊”
“Miss me yet? ❤️” “I just heard a song on the radio that made me think of you. 😘” “Important question: why are you so cute? 😍”
“What did you think of Mr. Miller’s science test yesterday? How do you think you did on that essay question?” “I’m bored. What do you like to do for fun?” You might even find that you and your crush have a few hobbies in common!
For example, if you see a post about a band you both like, you could say, “I just listened to the new Bastille song and loved it. Have you heard it yet?” “I’m dying to find an awesome new Sci-Fi book to read. You like that genre, right? Any recommendations?” Be sure to appreciate your crush’s interests that you might not share, too. Ask them lots of questions, so they know you’re listening.
For example, you could send a picture of yourself hanging out with friends and write, “It’s arcade day! 😆🎮 What are you up to?” Not every picture has to be a selfie. You could send a photo of your dog and write, “Milo says hi! He’d love to meet you sometime! 😉”
“Hey you! Just wanted to check in and see how your day is going. 😍 Doing anything fun?” “Did you get a haircut? You look AMAZING today! ❤️🔥” Some emojis can come across as suggestive, like a smiley with its tongue sticking out (😛). Stick to innocent emojis until you know your crush is into you.
“I’m going to see a baseball game this Friday! Wanna go with me?” “I remember you saying you like bowling. Want to hit up the bowling alley with me tomorrow night?” Keep it casual for now—you don’t even have to use the word “date. ” Ask them to hang out and make it clear that it’ll be just you there, so they know it’s romantic.
For instance, just because your crush sends you short texts doesn’t necessarily mean that they don’t like you—they might just be busy.
Avoid too much sarcasm since it might not come across the way you mean it to in a text. You can gradually open up to your crush over time, especially if you notice them doing the same thing with you.
However, don’t wait more than a couple of hours to respond unless you’re genuinely busy. Taking too long might make your crush think you’re not interested. As you plan out your timing, remember not to text your crush too late at night or too early. You might end up disturbing them, and it’s important to be respectful of their time!
For example, if your crush is sending you short 1 or 2-sentence texts, sending several giant blocks of text might frustrate them a little. Reply with texts that are roughly the same length instead. Use proper grammar until you better understand your crush’s style and text lingo. A few abbreviations like “OMG” are fine, but proper grammar and spelling make you seem more thoughtful and clever.
“I’ve actually gotta run! But I can’t wait to hear more about your project later. 😊 Talk tomorrow morning?” Leave your crush hanging by saying, “Oh, remind me tomorrow to tell you about my job interview!” If you’re ending the conversation because you have somewhere to go, make sure to mention that so they know you have a busy, well-rounded life.
