If she likes you, she might hold your gaze for a long time or pull away immediately, but this is not clear cut. Either of these signs could mean that she likes you, but sometimes, you could be wrong. So, before you make any spontaneous decisions, make sure to make it clear that the feeling is mutual. If you happen to glance at the girl and you see her staring back at you, then this means that she likes you, although she may quickly dart her head in a different direction. If she pulls away quickly, it could mean she is nervous but still likes you.
Keep the first touch casual and friendly to see how she responds. There’s no need for a romantic gesture yet.
This will warm the girl up to more intimate and longer lasting touches, and it will give you a better sense of how much she likes the contact.
You can also help her take her jacket off at the beginning of the night, whether you’ve invited her over your place or have stepped out to a restaurant.
Again, make sure she’s not the kind of girl who thinks it’s demeaning of you to suggest that she needs to hold your hand to get stuff done.
If it’s your first time trying this maneuver or making this kind of physical contact, then don’t step out onto a crowded street where you’re both likely to run in to people you know. Find a more intimate setting.
Though it’s nice to let the girl go first, don’t make a big production of touching her every time you do this, or she’ll start to think you’re only being a good person so you can touch her, which shouldn’t be the case.
Holding hands is a big step for a lot of girls. If she’s not into that right away, don’t be too discouraged. She might be waiting to be your girlfriend before you really hold hands, especially in public.
Obviously, don’t stare at her face all night until you finally see an eyelash there. But if you do see one, great. You can also lie. Say that she has something in her hair, even if she doesn’t actually have anything there, and break the touch barrier this way. Don’t brush any food off her face. Saying “Wait, you have a little chunk of bacon on your chin” is just not hot.
While you’re doing all of this, get a feel for how she responds to having her hand in yours. After she has responded to your comment or question, briefly rub her hand with your thumb gently and let it go. Smile and quickly move on, but be careful not to appear creepy.
If you’re feeling daring, bring her hands up to your mouth and blow a little warm air on them. However, make sure your breath doesn’t stink.
Being playful is perfect if you’re both doing it. But if you notice that you’re the one touching her and she doesn’t reciprocate, back off.
If she tenses up instead of relaxing as soon as you give her a massage, then you’ve already gone too far.
There’s a difference between playfully pulling each other in the direction you want to go and actually grabbing the girl in a way that feels violent and inappropriate.
