Move your head to the side so you don’t awkwardly bring your face too close to his.
Squeeze his shoulder only for a quick second—there’s no need to linger.
If your hand lingers, it’ll look more intimate, but a quick pat on the elbow will just show him that you care—and can lead to something more.
Don’t try to hold his hand or let your hand linger on top of his—that can come later, if you like.
The shoulders and upper back are good places to pat to convey casual affection; patting the lower back is a more intimate gesture.
If his body tenses up or he withdraws from you, these are signs he’s not comfortable being touched. If he does this, he may just be nervous, but assume he doesn’t want to be embraced and withdraw your arm, just in case.
When you kiss the guy on the cheek, let your lips just graze the side of his cheek. Don’t give him a wet, sloppy kiss. Make sure that he’s leaning in for the kiss or cheek-to-cheek move, too.
When you’re being playful like this, it’s important that the guy is reciprocating. If you’re playfully hitting him from time to time, he should return the gesture. If he doesn’t, it might be a sign he’s not into it.
For an extra flirtatious option, temporarily place your hand on his leg. [13] X Expert Source Candice MostisserDating Coach Expert Interview. 24 January 2020.
This is a pretty bold move, so don’t overuse it, and find a good reason to do it. For example, if the guy just got a haircut, you can gently squeeze his hair to tease him. If his hair looks a little messy, you can playfully try to fix it, using it as an excuse to touch him.
If he reciprocates by moving closer, consider taking things further by placing a hand on his knee and squeezing. Zoo-wee mama!
Lots of people like being touched on the cheek because it’s soft and comfortable.
You can hold the hand of a guy you’re not dating, but this is a pretty straightforward sign you like him, so be prepared for him to withdraw his hand if he doesn’t feel the same. If you’re already dating, hand holding is a common way of showing affection. You could also put your hand on top of his, if you’re both seated. [16] X Expert Source Candice MostisserDating Coach Expert Interview. 24 January 2020.
You can come up with a coy “excuse” to touch his chest, such as wanting to feel his shirt material, or just be overt and place your palm on his chest to let him know you want him.
Make sure he knows you’re there before you hug him! You want to turn him on, not startle him.
You can also turn him around and start kissing the front of his neck. Get really hot and heavy by biting his neck. Never bite hard (you’re not a vampire), and be extremely gentle the first time to see how he reacts; not everyone likes being bitten!
If you’re already involved and intimate, you might take it a step further by resting your hand on his rear end, but of course, be receptive if he shrugs you off.
Take it a step further by massaging his scalp a bit or running your fingers through the hair on the back of his head.
This is a great tactic to employ in conjunction with head massaging or ruffling his hair. He’ll go crazy with desire!
If you’re not comfortable with putting your tongue in there, then just blowing on the ear will suffice. You can also just graze the inside of his ear with your lips when you’re leaning close to whisper something in his ear. Biting his earlobes is another way to show him you mean business! But again, be gentle.
If he’s wearing sneakers and socks, it’s probably in your best interest not to take them off to massage his feet—they may be a bit dirty or sweaty at that point. But if his feet are already bare, go for it!
Start by touching him with your hands, and then ramp things up by kissing his skin as well, or even licking him. Oh la la! Be very sensitive to how he responds to your touches. If he pulls away or doesn’t reciprocate, or if he tells you directly he wants to stop, stop. Even if you’re already intimate, don’t assume he’ll be receptive to every type of touch.
